Not to be discouraging, but like some have alluded to here, sharing favorites with a SO could backfire if things go south. It’s a similar philosophy to keeping my personal interests/hobbies separate from anything work-related. If I was introducing someone to vk, I’d show them a smattering of more popular bands across all subgenres and let them drill down themselves, if they so choose.
As for me, personally, it’s incredibly difficult to bring up my centered interest in kirakira and oshare, or the “light” side of vk, without my sexual orientation being questioned . Very much the opposite of what someone would assume I’d listen to, based of my appearance. Why I’ve “put my eggs in more than one basket”, since I can pivot to other genres I listen to.
Simple. You don’t. Find someone with similar tastes to yours that don’t necessarily include VKei. I’m a fan of Arctic Monkeys. I’m much more likely to find someone who likes them than any VK band. But because they’re in the rock/pop sphere, that does mean you can introduce VKei groups that have some overlap that. And you can proceed from there.
I’ve also met women who vehemently do not want their partners to like their music “No this is MY thing. You have your own thing”. Don’t get that mentality but surprisingly I’ve come across that mindset more than once
Well use a dating app like Hinger or Bumble, I’ve found other V-Kei fans there. Unfortunately they all ghosted me after a few messages:sob:. But I’m a guy so maybe girls will have better luck idk.
It’s true that you shouldn’t narrow your search to something so niche as it would be like finding a needle in a haystack. Your best approach is to look around the general alternative community instead.
My girlfriend is alternative, it’s by coincidence that she actually knew quite a lot of VK bands! I got to know this because I said to her I liked a lot of Japanese bands and her response was “Do you like Arlequin?”. So, VK fans do exist out there! They’re just a rarity!