You know I feel the same way. I made a whole mix about it, and you and @Missa both said that it was quite exhausting. It’s very similar to how I felt before I unplugged, and what you’re describing is what I was attempting to communicate a while back on the Discord.
It’s a tricky subject because there are inherently good and bad things that come with hyper connectivity. They can’t be separated. For example, you’re reading this now and I hope that’s a Good Thing! We got to connect in a way we never would have otherwise. But I do think hyper connectivity and awareness of every bad thing happening around the globe the moment it happens has also contributed to the feeling of weariness, anxiety, and exhaustion that runs through all of us.
Then I always think of the phrase “misery loves company”, and I’ve gone into my whole spiel about finding positive energies and avoiding negative ones, but I think this ties into discourse online. Don’t have to go far to find people arguing about anything and everything, and that’s another flavor of exhaustion. Also can’t fight against the fire hose of disinformation; it’s much harder to disprove one lie than to tell ten! And all of this is brand new, so no one’s got it worked out in terms of what “moderation of consumption” actually means in this case.
But considering just how radicalized my society has become since 2008, lined that up with the rise of certain popular social media platforms (ahemahemfbahemahem) and the popular style of information presentation switching from subscriptions to news feed, and I can’t help but see a causal relationship there that we’ll only understand fully in a few decades.
I really don’t think we need an online hub for discourse. Twitter was that website and it 's got it’s good parts and it’s bad ones. It truly needs human moderation on an inconceivable scale and no one will agree on who should moderate them, or how, or what is acceptable. As someone who has been a moderator on a forum for over half his life, public moderation is key. People have to feel like we’re doing something or else we feel pointless as a group. But then that gets into doxxing and bias and all sorts of other sticky topics there are no good answers for.
I think we work best with some level of distributed networking and anonymity in smaller numbers, but that’s personal opinion. I like forums and chat rooms and even YouTube (I just avoid comments)! Avoiding the big names has been good for my mental health, and as people move away from Twitter, I hope that theirs improves as well.
Maybe then we can re-contextualize our relationship with all of these platforms and which ones work for us individually. When I was driving back last week, I heard an ad on the radio for a class action lawsuit against Instagram peddling harmful content to teens, so I’m certainly not the only one riding this wave…