i think in cases, it’s seen as very all or nothing. whereas it can be something simple to start with like, a dish you love to eat or that super fancy version of an ingredient, or even sleeping an extra 5 minutes.
for me, my “doing things you enjoy” took me a breakup! but without it, i wouldn’t have discovered my love of people watching, restaurants i can eat at alone (ex was allergic to seafood and didn’t like mexican food…), cooking with $14 USD butter for a finishing sauce, blasting questionable jpop at 2am…and even finding JRO! it got me back into forums to meet everyone and come out of my shell
so, echoing: do more things you like. but if it seems daunting - start small. walk one block up from a “usual” spot (or drive one street if walkability is an issue! or bike, subway, bus, etc) and find One Neat Thing. it’s gonna be hard. its gonna be scary. but that can be the fun part.
That’s a very good elaboration on my thought process begind my comment!
I only seem to make time for “special” stuff, like the concert of my favourite band. But never take time to just go to a local band I like, sit in the coffee shop to do my emails (you had really great examples). And that mindset is such a joy killer, because instead of every day, I schedule my joy for those very few moments every couple of years. Which is unnecessarily miserable. And I think a lot of people tend to lose sight for this, no?
I watched The Hunger Games (the 4 main movies, since apparently they’ve recently started doing prequels) for the first time this weekend. I never really got into the hype when they came out, partly because my impressions of the 1st one was that the target audience was younger (I was 22 when the first one came out). But damn the ending for the 4th movie just bummed me out and now I have to try to find something to cheer me up
been having a really tough time focusing. it’s like i’m an 8 year old boy with adhd in a math class. i sit down, open up my work file, look up some things, do a few clicks, and boom its been 3 hours and i haven’t written a single line.
honestly the whole freelancer set-your-own-schedule thing may not be for me. i love the freedom but i never get anything done on time. i initially decided to be a freelancer because i wanted more free time (workload is the same) but i ended up procrastinating so much that i don’t have any extra time left. what is wrong with me
I think a lot of people struggle with that but of it feels truly impossible to overcome, ADHD might indeed be the reason. I know I could never rely purely on myself like that to get anything done, even with meds
Idk how popular this mindset will be. But I will preface this by saying that this is ofc just my opinion
It’s weird how Malice Mizer’s music gets worse when they get a “better” singer. Tetsu being the least skilled, but his era is the best. Gackt is more trained than Tetsu and not as much as Klaha which is why his era is the most mid. Klaha is the most trained and probably the “best” singer but his era is easily the least good era.
Haha only best in terms of objective skill. Tbh I can’t think of a single Klaha era song I enjoy (Yes I have tried Gardenia and Beast of Blood) I know I’m much more extreme in this but I just don’t fw Klaha at all
I’ll take what I can get
My favorites are Beast of Blood, Kyomu no Naka de no Yuugi, Chinurareta Kajitsu and Baptism of Blood.
I also love the Bara ni Irodorareta Akui to Higeki no Makuake live DVD.
it’s even worse when someone else schedules you, ppl legit don’t get focus issues if they don’t have them.
are you in japan rn? they recently approved qelbree for adhd which is non-stimming, so it’s not addictive and it’s a very easy prescription to get, but it takes a while to start working. it has better longterm efficiency than ritalin etc and doesn’t have the stim side-effects.
it’s expensive if you have to pay all of the cost out of pocket and it’s not yet in my country, so i have to rely on other stuff, but it has good clinical feedback.
Before i switched to freelance the job was easy for the first few months, so it was smooth sailing. Later on the tasks got really boring and kinda difficult so i did tons of overtime. At the time I actually thought my focusing issues were because i worked better at night, but that turned out not to be the case. (i.e. I don’t actually work better at night.)
Yes i am japan but i have yet to see any kind of psychiatrist. i just don’t know where to start.
I often think about him and what he is up to nowadays. I just hope he’s living his best life 
