Excited to see what Ncuti can do as the 14th Doctor.
I hate cis. It reminds me of cyst. I don’t mind sis.
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Bio would make more sense than cis since you identify as your biological gender. I have no idea what cis stands for, probably Latin.
I see where you’re coming from and yes English is messy with all the influences from other languages, but ‘bio’ can be pretty loaded. If you were still wondering, ‘cis’ and ‘trans’ are indeed Latin for ‘this side of’ and ‘the other side of’, respectively, and they are more descriptive prefixes in this sense. Biological as a concept is just as messy as English is as a language, if you get what I mean.
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‘If a person realized that everything people call happiness, love and joy was just a miscalculation based on a false premise, he’d feel a horrible emptiness inside. The only thing that could rouse him from his paralysis would be to gamble with his own fate and the fate of others. The person capable of that would be permitted anything.’
When all seemed lost, thought is was my end- my anger gave me strength to ask them one last question “Who are you that do not know your history?”
Men are territorial, nothing wrong with that!
Well, at least I am. 
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There’s everything wrong with that when it comes to this topic.
People aren’t anything to be possessed, not women and not people of any other gender.
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Wrong? Right? You’re free to decide that for your own life.
As for me, well, I handle my affairs a bit differently.
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I’m probably the only person here that mutes every topic after reading it so the feed is clear and it’s easier to see new topics as they are created. This one and a few others are the only ones I have set as normal.
Is bitfan.id going to become the new wix for creating sites for vk artists, bands? 
There are plenty of territorial women as well so I don’t know why people act like it’s a toxic male thing to be protective of the person you love and care about which is exactly why I don’t have any friends of the opposite sex parroting this quote.
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Right. Absolutely nothing wrong with protecting your relationship. That emotion that swells up in us when we feel the need to guard or protect our relationship is a form what is termed ‘jealousy’.
People feel jealous for a reason, and often times they have good reason to be. Jealousy is an emotion, and just like every other emotion, there are both good and bad ways to deal with it. This assumption that jealousy is automatically a negative thing is immature at best, and automatically calling someone “insecure” as a way of downplaying or deflecting their feelings and concerns is basically gaslighting.
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Bruh, are you me? All my closest friends in college were girls and I tend to just connect better with females in general. It’s evened out a lot more now and seems like it’s easier to connect with guys, and I attribute that to age. At a younger age guys around me were more interested in playing sports, drinking, gaming, and generally not interested in having conversations. Girls seemed to actually enjoy having meaningful conversations.
I also used to get asked if I was gay or teased about being gay. I admit I used to have more feminine mannerisms, but I think like you, having a mostly female cast of friends didn’t help my case. One of my sisters friends said she thought I was gay because I dress “metro”, which I’m not entirely sure what that means because as far as I could tell, I dressed like a lot of other men.
@Ayato44 Definitely sounds like that guy is insecure. But I also get why. The age gap is probably making him feel like she’s looking for a younger hotter model or something so your closeness with her is uncomfortable. Truthfully though, he probably should be looking for women closer to his age. It’s really challenging to make relationships with that kind of age gap work because of different life goals people usually have at varying ages. I’m not saying it’s not possible or that people shouldn’t do that, just that there are a slew of challenges added on top of just the usual struggles of having a relationship. And that’s hard enough!
Honestly, don’t think there’s anything you can do about the situation. They’ll have to clear things up between each other and the guy definitely needs to learn to grow past these feelings. Hopefully your friend can talk some sense into him. It’s definitely normal though. I think there are better ways to deal with how this guy is feeling, but jealousy can be a strong vice.
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It‘s never right, no matter which gender it comes from or which it is aimed at. Again, people aren’t things to be possessed and doing so is toxic, again, no matter which gender it comes from.
This is not a matter of opinion but of respect.
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Well, we do have the same name and are Asian (half in my case.) x files theme plays
That pretty much speaks to my experience. I don’t know about your scenario, but I grew up around girls who were all family friends, and due to them also being entirely within a small Asian American diaspora I wasn’t exposed to that cultural/societal stigma until I was in school which comprised of sharply different demographics. I wasn’t interested in very guy-like rowdy/machismo stuff growing up as well (besides gaming), but my interests about evened out by the time I was in high school. Different attitudes plus a lack in common interests led me to just “listening” a lot and around people who wanted to talk -a lot, which I was totally cool with as someone who also desired conversations (to make friends.)
I never pursued relationships in school because no one there really interested me combined with the whole female-friend thing. I dressed pretty neutral, but uh… I ended up dressing like casual Shin from ViViD at the latter end of high school… Black shorts, oversized white shirt, and leather jacket… I made my own fingerless gloves at one point O__O
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I watched it when it came out. I can feel the pain. They just were on space desert and fighting and there were some UFOs and strange alien dudes. In 3D you get headache. But I guess they will make a lot of money just because it’s the beginning and the story starts here hmm… Don’t know, but the amount of simping girls around here is 
I know peeps have been memeing it up with James Cameron’s love of water and the Avatar 2 trailer, but I’m totally in his camp, lol. I fucking love water, hell I even enjoyed Waterworld (w/ Kevin Costner) just because of the setting, lol. Also hyped af for that movie.
#hydrohomie
hating on Cameron is fun and all, but there aren’t many big Hollywood directors with filmographies that stand up to his
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Over heard a man at walmart talking to a can of spray paint: "people who have a fear of drowning are called “hydrophobics” or “aquaphobics” because it’s better than the alternate title of “drown syndrome” " O.o
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In any relationship, there’s usually an element of possesion or “belonging to”. That’s why we say “MY husband, MY wife, MY mother, MY father, MY brother, MY sister, MY friend, etc, etc” So to possess something doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing. It’s just that the word “possess” has many negative connotations, so we tend to automatically associate it with evil or ill intent. But all it means is to “belong to”. We usually don’t bat an eye when someone says something like, “you two belong together”. It’s a matter of semantics, really.
And generally, ppl tend to take care of and protect the things that belong to them, if they actually value and treasure them.
So possessing or belonging to a person does not mean that you own that person like you’d own a pet, a car, or a piece of property…it also does not mean that you can or should violate that person’s free will.
Think about it. How do you even get to the point where you can call a person, “your girlfriend” or “my girlfriend”? Doesn’t the other person have to agree to it in the first place?
So in the case of intimate relationships, you usually belong to someone (or someone belongs to you) based on a mutual agreement. From what I can tell, problems arise and things become toxic when you violate that agreement. And the issue with that is that many ppl enter into relationships having no idea what they’re agreeing to because they never discuss these things in the first place, but I’m going on a tangent, so I digress.
Basically, i think people hear the idea of “possessesion” in reference to relationships and have a kneejerk reaction to it because they don’t actually stop to consider what it means. They automatically jump to this extreme, slave situation in their heads where someone is being forced into a relationship against their own will, or in a relationship where someone treats them like a dog or worse. So the real concern here is not the terminology or the idea of possession, but it’s the fear of you or someone else having their free-will violated or abused.
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